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'Broken' foods

PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 20:23
by Lily
Lately, Izbiz has started getting really distressed if his food gets 'broken', for example if a piece of toast comes apart while he's eating it. I can't work out if he thinks he's done something wrong by breaking it (he is a natural rule-follower and gets v upset by any imagined transgressions), or if he thinks breaking the food somehow makes it bad to eat. Either way, he is inconsolable and will abandon perfectly good food which he was enjoying eating.

Anyone else had this? Any ideas for how to reassure him?

Re: 'Broken' foods

PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 20:57
by Sallie
Oh dear, how difficult! If he has quite a strong sense of things being 'right' I guess he just feels it isn't right any more so he can't eat it? I'm not sure what would help him other than understanding from your example that it is fine to break food and to eat broken food. I wouldn't leap in to reassure him too strongly as in his mind it could confirm there is something worth worrying about, so I'd try and stay as calm and low key as possible whilst comforting him. What if he saw you eating it or 'breaking' your own food before eating it?
How is his communication? Can he explain to you what he thinks if you ask him?

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PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 20:59
by PerpetualMadness
Both of mine went through this as a phase about the same time they hit toddler OCD.

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PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 21:09
by Lily

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PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 21:14
by Treeb
L gets a bit upset over it and tries to stick the pieces back together. I usually explain that it can't go back together, but it is fine because it would get broken by our teeth anyway and we can still eat it. Usually he gets over it pretty quickly and continues eating.

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PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 21:36
by mamapup
My friend's daughter had a total meltdown in the park the other day because all the biscuits were broken at the corners. The Mum is totally assuming it's normal.

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PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 21:42
by eterna
Yes we had this phase as well. It also applied to things like sandwiches or tacos; if the bread and fillings came apart or the hard shell taco cracked and meat fell out it was total life-ruining disaster!

Re: 'Broken' foods

PostPosted: 28 Feb 2014, 22:29
by Turtle'sMammy
Oh yes, and if you cut things "wrong". Or put them in the "wrong" plate/bowl/cup. All the while you never knew the "right" thing, so you can't fix it.
I'd forgotten about that.
Should be coming here soon...balls!

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PostPosted: 01 Mar 2014, 00:04
by jvnt

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PostPosted: 01 Mar 2014, 09:17
by GHJingle

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PostPosted: 01 Mar 2014, 13:48
by welovepresents
Yup we had a phase of this - a banana breaking in half was near disaster and Dd also would get really distressed about things being cut in half . We went along with it as far as possible and now she's much better

Re: 'Broken' foods

PostPosted: 01 Mar 2014, 22:08
by AngelofTroy
We are going through this at the moment, but less extreme. LO actually breaks things on purpose but then panics and says "uh oh, broken" over and over! I just calmly repeat "oh is it broken? Never mind, it tastes the same" and that seems to work most of the time. Sometimes he takes a few minutes to get over it and spends ages trying to stick a banana/cracker/etc back together, hehe. He got very upset the other day when he couldn't get the stalk to reattach to his pear lol!