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Encouraging words whilst eating....

PostPosted: 16 Sep 2007, 15:55
by supernim

PostPosted: 16 Sep 2007, 16:39
by Aitch
ah, well it's an interesting area actually. i remember reading a thread on Mumsnet about this when i first started weaning, and it was all about how/whether you should react when your children eat. (they weren't talking about babies, i hasten to add).

anyway, lots of people were saying they did that kinda 'oh well done etc' business but i was quite taken with the people who said that they remained fairly impassive throughout, becuase then that removed the whole 'eat your food and make mummy happy' dynamic.

now, i'm speaking as someone who is pathologically unable to leave food on a plate because of all the 'clear your plate and you'll get dessert' stuff when i was a kid.

so if babybear was gagging we'd pull some 'nyum-nyum' chewing faces, and we always ask her if she's enjoying dinner and make some 'delicious/oh this is lovely' type noises but we actually don't tend to make much comment on whether or not she eats or how well. (and i'm glad to say that she eats fine so far, so my attitude might be different were that not the case).

so i dunno, i think it's totally interesting. i'm 36 and i'm still working on not clearing my plate so all this stuff must get imprinted on your brain...
anyway, lol, that wasn't really what you were asking was it?


PostPosted: 16 Sep 2007, 18:17
by AB&M

PostPosted: 18 Sep 2007, 13:45
by EmilyinFrance

PostPosted: 18 Sep 2007, 14:50
by TinkerbellesMum

PostPosted: 18 Sep 2007, 17:13
by AB&M

PostPosted: 19 Sep 2007, 08:03
by TinkerbellesMum
I remembered this morning a way that we are not so passive with her, Tink is under the impression that everyone in the same room as her is there to be a cup bearer and if it's not good enough for the cup bearer, it goes on the floor!

I have to try to distract her, when we eat out, to let Mummy try because random strangers that just happen to walk past, don't generally want to share her soggy food!

PostPosted: 19 Sep 2007, 10:58
by AB&M
LOL! I can just see her now, handing something half-eaten to the lady on the table next door! How to get invited back to a party :D

PostPosted: 21 Sep 2007, 14:40
by supernim
interesting reading - never thought about it from the point of view of them eating to make mummy happy - I now don;t feel quite so bad for the times when I am too tired to say 'mmm yummy' to her and gaze off into space munching my own share of plum quarters!