Feeding woes

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Feeding woes

Postby Jelly Belly » 21 Jun 2013, 16:22

It could be the jaundice, could be the tongue tie, he could just be a lazy sod. Bam has lost a lot of weight and I'm having to express to cup feed a sleepy baby with boobs that don't like to express. Why is nothing ever simple? Feeling pretty pissed off that the girls will be losing even more of my attention. I know it'll be fleeting in the grand scheme but my hormones aren't quite helping me to see the bigger picture. I need a bit of a weep. :(
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby robyn » 21 Jun 2013, 16:29

Me and m went through this, it's miserable :( the jaundice was a huge part of it for m-she didn't have a tongue tie- and once that cleared everything was sooooo much easier. Just feed feed feed, even if he only has a tiny amount it all helps flush his system clear of the bilirubin xxx
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby blackberrycrimble » 21 Jun 2013, 16:33

My peas are gone as well as my marbles.
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby ches » 21 Jun 2013, 16:37

I hope the weather is conducive to you and BAM out in the sunshine with minimal attire to help breakdown the bilirubin. A little topping up now won't make any difference too your long-term nursing relationship.
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Re: Feeding woes

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Re: Feeding woes

Postby AB&M » 21 Jun 2013, 17:53

(((JB))) This was my first 6 weeks with Kitten. You are doing an amazing job, the girls are wonderful & will understand. I FBed you about coming to visit without Kitten so I'm happy to come & entertain the girls for a few hours.
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby sully » 21 Jun 2013, 21:43

(((Jb))) please let me know if we can do anything to help. Text you tomorrow xx
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby ceeLIN » 21 Jun 2013, 21:45

Feeding still not great here at 16 weeks and 8 weeks after tongue tie snipped so i know where you are coming from.
It will get better, you know it will. You CAN get through this.
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby Svea » 22 Jun 2013, 08:55

Have you thought about the tingue tie, and does he have an upper lip tie as well? O does, the two go together apparently. You can self refer to paed dentist Dr Malcolm Levinkind to get the TT and if necessary, the ULT lasered. He is based in east finchley. No idea of cost but comes recommended. Otherwise for only TT there is Ann Dobson, Amelia Parker and Katie fisher who all come recommended.

Or find an NHS clinic. I have an appointment for Monday to get O's TT snipped, which will hopefully relieve the feeding pain. I needed to be assessed twice though and refered by a BF councillor.
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Re: Feeding woes

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Re: Feeding woes

Postby meerkatsmum » 22 Jun 2013, 09:45

I'm sorry it's not going well.

Just on the topic of lip tie. I was told by a few IBCLC's that M didn't have a tongue tie. It wasn't until lip ties were mentioned here that I looked at Meerkat's mouth (looking at the photo's I thought, no way does she have that, opened her mouth in the morning and there it was, quite severe). Anyway she was 10 months and we had had a few months of no BF-ing trouble. My doctor's and LC's don't agree with me but I swear that that lip tie was the source of our problems. No weight gain issues but recurrent mastitis. Anyway, I just wanted to mention it, as yes a lip tie usually indicates a tongue tie but it wasn't the case in M. I just thought I would add our experience in case it was of any help. I have nightmares about this baby having a lip tie too. I am just so sure it was the issue.
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby Jelly Belly » 22 Jun 2013, 10:42

Thanks all. I'm not convinced the tie is the biggest cause. He can get his tongue quite far forward, it looks really mild and the pinchy feeding of the early days is lessening (I call it tiny mouth syndrome!). He is a lot less yellow so the increased milk since we began boobie boot camp is having it's effect (shame it's now raining again so no garden feeds in the sun).

A pump has been purchased and will be collected in a couple of hours so I can (hopefully) start to get a bit more out and get a bit more in him. My IM has been really supportive, she came up with the same action plan as I already had in mind, called to check on us today and will be back tomorrow so I'm not just being left to cope. It's the worst of all worlds, trying to feed a sleepy head and express and top him up - so much juggling - so it just felt completely overwhelming yesterday as it IS all down to me. IM and Mr JB being really supportive and positive "If anyone can get through this, it'll be you JB" and other complete faith type comments. Must go and eat a fat load of chocolate before I poke him awake again... feed the Mama, right? :wink:
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby monster » 22 Jun 2013, 10:49

Great that you have a plan and support from your IM and Mr JB. Good luck!
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby Jelly Belly » 22 Jun 2013, 10:50

Svea wrote:Have you thought about the tingue tie... I needed to be assessed twice though and refered by a BF councillor.

I still have a few good contacts from my days on the MSLC so will be able to access any help we might need more easily if we decide the TT is the route of the problem (knowing the system, who to talk to and local pathway is a BIG advantage!). It seems boys on my side of the family are prone to TT but Bam has the mildest case of the three and the other two managed to be EBF for at least 9 months.
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Re: Feeding woes

Postby junglewonderland » 22 Jun 2013, 10:54

(((JB))) you are doing a great job. It should be easier and it sucks that it is not.

Lol at tiny mouth syndrome and booby boot camp! Will file those away for another day.

Glad that you have seen a bit of improvement.
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