BFP

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Re: BFP

Postby mamapup » 10 Jul 2014, 21:03

I have one of each and also hate the "oooh, that's so perfect" comment because then I feel like an arse for pointing out that whatever you have is perfect because that's what you have. I hope people don't ask too many stupid questions.
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Re: BFP

Postby sabrina fair » 10 Jul 2014, 21:23

I definitely needed to grieve for the mother/daughter relationship I'd never have when I found out squidge was a boy. I think I still am grieving even though I wouldn't wish him any other way.
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Re: BFP

Postby SharkiesMum » 10 Jul 2014, 21:25

((())) people say dumb things. You know you will love a little boy as much as a little girl. But you are allowed to have a freak out. Hope you feel better about it all again soon.
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Re: BFP

Postby Kanga » 10 Jul 2014, 21:33

(((Maggie4))) a little freak out is totally normal, I hope you feel ok soon. People do say stupid things so I either ignore or say something to shush them! Even with one of each people say 'do you know what you're having? Oh I don't suppose it matters as you've already got one of each' It wouldn't matter whatever we already had, I just want it to be ok. Yes we do have some thoughts/preferences but we're fine if it turns out differently!
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Re: BFP

Postby Tintin » 10 Jul 2014, 22:05

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Re: BFP

Postby Rahgamuffin » 11 Jul 2014, 06:17

ARGH WHY ARE PEOPLE SO £$%^&*() RUDE! This drove me MAD when I was pregnant with L .."Are you trying for a girl?" blahblahblah and now "Oh, you've stopped now you've got your girl" GRRR!

Whatever gender, this baby will be beautiful, clever, funny and adored by their lovely big brothers. People ask all the time if L is different... and she is, but so are B & J.
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Re: BFP

Postby robyn » 11 Jul 2014, 06:28

Urgh, we get this a lot. People will not accept that we didn't care whether Ida was a boy or a girl, and they can't believe we're not going to have another to try and get a boy!
I had the tinyest moment when we found out she was a girl, when I thought, huh. I'll never be the mother of a boy. It was just a moment and then it was gone. Groups of all girls, groups of all boys, and mixed groups are all amazing.
Freak outs are normal even in the most planned of pregnancies (((())))
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Re: BFP

Postby PerpetualMadness » 11 Jul 2014, 06:47

The most common 'reason' that people ask me if we are having more is some variation on 'so you can have a girl'... People are idiots. People with a boy/girl combo saying that boys and girls are Sooooo different when actually children are just different.
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Re: BFP

Postby FestiveTidings » 11 Jul 2014, 07:11

Boys are totally awesome. I never even considered having a girl, my babies were boys in my head and luckily they turned out to be boys :) If either had been a girl I would have had to adjust but she would have been loved just the same.

I've had the are you trying for a girl and I've just looked at them as if to say are you freaking mad and said no, two children are fine (I make a point of not saying boys).

I think it's slightly insane when people make these comments as if we have a choice in what gender our babies are. We are having babies, not shoe shopping.
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Re: BFP

Postby Jelly Belly » 11 Jul 2014, 07:32

People are idiots. "You can stop now you've got your boy" was a common comment last year. No, I can stop now because Mr JB would have a full on freak out at the thought of having another baby - he feels too old. I can stop because just the idea of being pregnant again makes me feel really, really tired (in fairness, that could also be down to Bam teething). Mr JB is one of 4 boys and my next door neighbours also have 4 grown up sons. MIL and the neighbours were among the few to simply comment on how blessed we were to have three beautiful, healthy children. Had Bam been a girl our family would still have been complete as it was an empty space at the dinner table that we needed to fill not some yearning to have a mixed gender family and get "the full experience"
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Re: BFP

Postby Kanga » 11 Jul 2014, 08:27

Rahgamuffin wrote:People ask all the time if L is different... and she is, but so are B & J.


This drives me insane! Even when ds was newborn people said what's it like having a boy? I just said a baby is a baby, they sleep, eat & poo just the same! Yes my 2 are different personalities but I have a friend with 2 girls who couldn't be more different if they tried, nothing to do with gender!
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Re: BFP

Postby mindy » 11 Jul 2014, 19:34

We didn't find out what Roo or Min was, I always wanted girls so was ecstatic when they were. However, I'd already decided that if this one worked out - which it didn't - I would try to find out, as I would need to mentally prepare myself if it wasn't another girl. Somehow I've always seen myself with three daughters, but of course it is complete luck of the draw. You love whatever you have because they are yours and you made them, whatever they are. Even after nearly 6 years of parenting it still astounds me how rude and thoughtless people can be at a time when you are most hormonal and least rational! Bugger the lot of them - we love our children whatever flavour they are.
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Re: BFP

Postby Svea » 11 Jul 2014, 21:55

one of each is what you want - and you get that as soon as you have multiple children. one dark, one light. or one cheeky, one funny. or one noisy, one quiet. we sure have one of each with our three little darlings! :)

congrats and gentle hugs. it will be fine, you will be fine . xx
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Re: BFP

Postby FestiveTidings » 12 Jul 2014, 05:24

On the gender topic - met one of MIL's friends today who asked Roo if he wanted a little sister. He said no, having babies hurts mummy's tummy. Friend then said what if daddy had the baby? Roo looked at her as if she had 2 heads and said "daddy can't have babies. The baby can't drink from daddy's boobies!"

She didn't know what to say to that :)
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Re: BFP

Postby Kanga » 12 Jul 2014, 06:46

That's brilliant Ft, I love it!
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