What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

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What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby EnigmaFish » 06 Jan 2014, 22:09

I know I have done this all already, but I have the short-term memory of a teaspoon...
How much can the midwives or doctors tell you about your baby at twelve/thirteen weeks? I have my first appointment next week, when I'll be thirteen weeks along.

I have a feeling that this is twins... but that is based on absolutely nothing that resembles a concrete fact. There are no twins in either family. I don't feel twice as sick or depressed or twice as large. I have no reason to believe there's twins. Honestly, I think the only reason my gut instinct tells me it is twins is I REALLY WANT IT TO BE TWINS. :?

Will they be able to tell me at this appointment if I'm right or not? I want to be prepared. I won't get a scan until the twenty-second week. You only get one scan done here in Ireland, unless you want to pay for a private one.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby Sallie » 06 Jan 2014, 22:18

Will they listen to the heartbeat? They do here at the 12 week appt so it would be possible to hear two heartbeats, were it twins?
I think the rest of it is checking your urine, blood maybe, and asking you how you feel and giving you info.
I don't think feeling twice as sick is a sign of twins, ha ha! God it that were true I'd have given birth to quads this time around!
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby Violet_Cue » 06 Jan 2014, 23:01

I am pretty sure that at that point my doctor ruled out twins based on how high my uterus was? DH was hoping for twins (to get it all over with in one shot I suppose) and so he was disappointed. Of course I met a couple who didn't find out they were having triplets until their 20 week scan and the tech kept counting to 3 while looking at the screen. The dad caught on that something was happening as there aren't 3 of anything in the human body. That was a surprise!
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby Toasty Crumpet » 07 Jan 2014, 06:52

I am sure twin mums will be able to confirm but my understanding is that you feel sicker because there are more hormones in your body with twins. I seem to remember that listening to heartbeats isn't necessarily reliable until a bit later too. Do you get a 12 week dating scan where you are?
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby lemonlover » 07 Jan 2014, 09:48

I would think you would need a scan to detect twins at 12 weeks. You can be sicker with twins but my friend had triplets and wasn't sick at all, and my neighbour had hyperemesis with one.

In the olden days before scans, people often didn't know it was twins until the second was born!
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby Marrow » 07 Jan 2014, 10:00

I have a family member who had twins detected at her 20 week scan when 12 week scans were not automatic.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby pimento » 07 Jan 2014, 10:16

I thought they don't listen to heartbeat before 16 weeks? The reasoning being that it's very very difficult to hear it and they don't want to freak out the parents in case they don't hear anything.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby shye » 07 Jan 2014, 10:37

pimento wrote:I thought they don't listen to heartbeat before 16 weeks? The reasoning being that it's very very difficult to hear it and they don't want to freak out the parents in case they don't hear anything.

This is true here at least.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby EnigmaFish » 07 Jan 2014, 10:57

Nope, no scans until twenty-ish weeks. I don't remember if they listen for the heartbeat(s).

I haven't told anyone about this irl as I'm afraid of being laughed at if my hunch is wrong!
When we decided to have kids, I always knew that I'd have at least two. (I was an only child, and wouldn't willingly force that on anyone.) Now that a second one is imminent, DOH keeps saying, "great, we are stopping at two!" My reaction is "err...no we aren't."
My gut instinct says that if there are two, there's going to be three. Maybe the twins thing is wishful thinking - like V_C's DH I want to get it all over with!
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby felizefun » 07 Jan 2014, 11:30

At my 12 week scan they checked that there is a heartbeat and how many foetuses (sp?) so yes, they will be able to tell you whether you are having twins. :) Good luck! I hope it's what you want.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby Where'stheMistletoe » 07 Jan 2014, 13:00

Here you get a scan at 12 weeks and that would detect twins but if no scan there then I imagine it wouldn't be conclusive at this stage.

Violet_Cue wrote: the tech kept counting to 3 while looking at the screen. The dad caught on that something was happening as there aren't 3 of anything in the human body. That was a surprise!
Brilliant!

DH was convinced I was having twins this time based on how big I was and more sickness / tiredness but obviously it wasn't and I think it was just wishful thinking on his behalf! I always wanted twins until I had Wriggles and thought, god, if one is this hard, how the hell would I have coped with 2 Wriggles?!!
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby lemonlover » 07 Jan 2014, 13:21

Yup, be careful what you wish for :)

But I think if you did want two more children than you already have, twins wouldn't be a terrible way to get them. So far they are harder work than a singleton but not as hard as two singletons one after the other. Just as easy to change two nappies as one really, or clean a floor that two babies have thrown their food on. And it turns out there's a reason we have two boobs.

If on the other hand you were planning to stop at 2 but now have 3... you just count your blessings, get a bigger car and remember you'll never be lonely in your old age.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby EnigmaFish » 07 Jan 2014, 17:26

Thanks, everyone! So it sounds like I won't be getting the concrete answer I was hoping for this time around.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby StJuniper » 07 Jan 2014, 17:38

I had a strong hunch I was having twins this time. Turns out to be about as reliable as a strong gender hunch, i.e. not at all reliable.
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Re: What can they tell you at a 12 week visit?

Postby fourweewonders » 07 Jan 2014, 19:47

I had no early sickness at all with the twins (they more than made up for it in 2nd & 3rd trimesters)
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